Thanksgiving is next week and with that the holiday season will be in full swing! I love seeing everyone post their Christmas decor already. I am 100% team do whatever makes you happy, because well, this life is hard! As much joy as the holiday’s bring, it can also bring a lot of stress and anxiety.
“I’m sorry, I can’t.”
Yep. That’s right. You can say NO. To the extra shift. To working an extra holiday. To switching shifts. To the holiday party, the cookie exchange. If your plate is full, you can say no. You don’t owe anyone time that is going to affect your mental health. There is so much going on this time of year. Choose to give the best of you to the things that will be most fulfilling to you.
Self Care and Self Soothe at the Event
Of course we can’t say no to everything, and we don’t want to say no to everything! As someone who has social anxiety, I can honestly say just because something is uncomfortable or makes you anxious doesn’t mean you shouldn’t go. And it doesn’t mean you won’t have fun! Here’s a few ideas for how to take care of yourself while you are at an event that may result in a little overstimulation or anxiety.
Take Breaks
Honestly, hiding in the bathroom or stepping outside is one of my favorite party tricks if I need a moment of silence and solitude. It’s okay to need a moment to yourself!
Practice Calming Techniques
I can’t express the power of a deep breath when you feel the stress coming on. Take a few slow, intentional, deep breaths to regulate your nervous system. Holding a cup can make you feel less awkward when standing around.
Set a Time to Leave and Stick to It
I’m going to be honest, I’m not great at this one. In fact, I kind of suck at it. And my husband is even worse. However, I know the added stress that comes with being at a party past your limit. If you’re going with a partner or friend, have this discussion before hand. If you don’t feel you can’t simply say “It’s time to go!” (which by the way, you TOTALLY can) have a reason you need to leave (check on dogs, wake up early, etc.)
Self care and schedule time for rest
It is so easy to get caught up with the hustle and bustle of the holidays that you end up completely exhausted and burnt out by the new year. Remember the importance of taking care of you! Eat food that makes you feel good (along side all those magical treats), move you body, and schedule time to recharge- whatever that looks like for you. And if that means you have to skip the fourth party of the month to have an evening to yourself- that’s okay too!
What are some of you holiday plans? I am looking forward to having both my husband’s family and my family in Florida in December for Christmas celebrations!